Saturday, December 28, 2013

Why Marriages Fail 


When people over 40 and 50 years old divorce, a few things that come to many people’s minds are that those couples eventually became tired of each other and grew apart. Some people might even argue divorced people miss the fun and freedom they had when they were still single. Also widely discussed are the financial difficulties and other social complications that come with marriage, especially in these times when people are losing their jobs. But there could be another reason for the climbing divorce rate for people over 40: the lack of or poor efforts for couples to communicate with each other.

Contrary to what others think, communication is the one key factor that can help couples stay together. By communicating with each other effectively and efficiently, husbands and their wives can literally do anything - solve a financial problem together, be in touch even if they are miles apart from each other, take turns on doing domestic chores, be there when tragedy or emergencies happen and more. With communication, the stress that comes with marriage can be moderated and at the same time misunderstandings can be prevented.

When problems become grave or emotional for the couple, it is through close communication and interaction that the husband and wife can understand each other fully and stick together no matter what. Other than communication, marriages fail due to financial and social pressures. By the time a married person reaches his or her forties, thoughts about retirement, pensions, social security, varied taxes and other social matters begin to hang around in his/her mind. Questions start popping up in their minds such as “With the sad state of our economy, will I have any good benefits by the time I retire?”, “If I retire soon, how can I keep paying the taxes on this nice home of ours?”, “Will my employer fire me just before I retire knowing how much money they lost recently”, “Will our lifestyle change so much now that our sons and daughters are mature now?, “Should I delay my retirement by five years?”, “Will there be many managerial jobs available for me by the time I turn fifty?” and more.

It is clear that the lack of communication often results in pent up anger and frustration and can lead to divorce if issues are talked and mediated through. Whether someone needs a shoulder to cry on during emotional times or if domestic problems need to be solved immediately, communicating with each other is a must for the couple that seriously wants to make their marriage stay healthy and last longer.

D. Flees

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